SANTOS PSYCHOTHERAPY
Specialist Perinatal Psychotherapy
in West Yorkshire & Online for Birth Trauma,
Postnatal Anxiety & Maternal Burnout and Overwhelm
Motherhood isn't meant to feel like constant survival mode
Move beyond constantly feeling like you have to get it right and second-guessing yourself to experiencing motherhood with more self trust, connection and joy
You don't have to keep holding it together all on your own
BABCP-accredited Specialist Perinatal Psychotherapist with 15+ years' experience
Motherhood demands a lot from us but it doesn't have to feel this hard and relentless
Maybe your pregnancy or birth didn't go the way you'd hoped.
Maybe your feeding journey left you feeling like you'd failed.
Or perhaps since becoming a mum, the need to try to keep everything under control at all times has intensified and no longer feels sustainable. Whatever brought you here...
You're exhausted from carrying so much.
You might be ...
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Replaying your birth or pregnancy over and over
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Experiencing intrusive thoughts or postnatal anxiety
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Constantly on edge, never feeling able to switch off
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Snapping at your children, then being consumed by guilt
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Feeling like you're failing, despite trying so hard
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Struggling to ask for help
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Wondering why you can't seem to cope anymore
You’re not alone in this.
And nothing about this means you’re failing
For many of the women I work with, birth trauma or the transition into motherhood becomes the tipping point. But often, the patterns go further back.
Many have spent years being the capable one. The one who pushes through. The one who holds everything together and puts everyone else's needs first. These ways of coping once made sense but motherhood is now stretching you beyond your limits and while you love your baby deeply, it's still making you wonder: Is this it for me now?
You don't have to keep trying harder
Let's face it, if trying harder was the answer - you'd probably already be feeling better by now.
My aim is for us to make sense of what's happened and understand why your mind and body respond the way they do. To guide you in supporting your nervous system and as it learns that it doesn't have to stay in survival mode all the time, you begin to create more space.
Space to pause. To choose how you want to respond, rather than reacting from moment to moment.
From there, we can strengthen your ability to trust your own judgement without constantly looking outside yourself for reassurance. To make space for your own needs too, to be able to give yourself permission to rest. And to grow into a life—and a way of parenting, with more connection, joy, fun and laughter and the confidence that you can cope, even when life feels messy, unpredictable and doesn't go to plan.
